40. "Hey, let's meet at so-andso's party/any bar/friend's house" is not a date. Even if you live in New York.
41. Men don't forget how much they like you. So put down the phone.
42. You are good enough to be asked out.
45. If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you.
47. The "But He's Got A Lot On His Mind" Exscuse: When you like someone, they don't just slip your mind.
52. The "Maybe We're Just Different" Exscuse: Missing someone is a sign of a healthy relationship. Not respecting your need to have some form of connection with him while he's away is not. Regardless of his dislike for talking on the phone, he should respect and care for you enough to call, if only because he knows that it will make you happy.
- I loathe phones...beyond reason, sometimes. But if I like a guy enough I will talk to them on a phone, or call them every once in a while, just because I love them that much. It should go that way for guys too.
56. Meeting someone you like and dating him is supposed to make you feel better, not worse. That's always a good rule to live by, no matter what the special circumstances.
60. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn't follow through on the little things, he will do the same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he's okay with disappointing you.
65. He's just not that into you if he's dating you. "Hanging out" is not dating.
68. The "He Just Got Out of A Relationship" Exscuse: He will always be able to play the "friend" card with you. He only has to be responsible for the expectations of a friend, rather than a far greater expectations of a boy friend. After all, being a "pal," you wouldn't put him through any more emotional turmoil while he's going through his "very traumatic breakup." He's got the ultimate situation: a great friend with all the benefits of a girlfriend, whom he can see or not see whenever he wants.
- In my opinion, this exscuse can be used if someone you've never met before randomly walks up to you and askes you out...and you don't know what to say, because you want to tactfully say no. I've done it...and walked away, having it partially true. But he left me alone, so it worked.